I guess black women on OKCupid are tech savvy, professional black women who don't value hip hop thugs very much?
Having said all that, I absolutely must say that OKCupid is predominantly young liberal yuppies. This might not apply well to other people, and says almost nothing about any given individual. When she tried dating white guys she was turned off by how callous they were to blacks.
Think about it: how many Asian guys do you see in the media?
Also, is it that terrible to treat your dating pool like ice cream?
If you have a range of potential mates you are compatible with, why not pick your favorite flavor?
I lived that feeling as the token black girl in my West Texas hometown’s elite circles. I am a woman who grew up with a “Love is Colorblind” figurine in her room, for goodness sake!
The fear of feeling that way within a relationship also blinded me to possibility. When it comes to life experiences and interests, I likely have more in common with white men than black.
Men of character, wit and charisma, alongside whom I have spent some of the best times of my life. East and South Asians, Persians, Arabs, Native Americans, Polynesians — all options as far as I was concerned. Then came the night my girlfriend jokingly called me a racist after I rejected a list of possible options, including her brilliant and cute brother, because they just were “not my type,” my longtime code for “melanin-deficient.” We laughed about it. I pride myself on being open and accepting people at face value, yet, consciously or not, I was writing off millions of single and potentially interesting American men simply because they were white.