Ultimately, if you want a relationship to be as you want it to be, you need to be true to what you really want.
You need to have a clear idea of what you consider a relationship to be. Some guys need time and there’s nothing wrong with giving a guy time.
These addictions are experienced by the entire breadth of society, from the […] Read more Complacency is a continuous struggle that we all have to fight.
~ Jack Nicklaus You know how you sometimes (perhaps frequently) have that experience of something bumping up against you repeatedly and you feel the nudge to listen.
I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.
I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.
Not even a year later, that thought has become a reality.